This one is an update for my relationships, social life and thoughts on all of that.
As we (Kaspars & Daiga) are getting married in May, 2014, few weeks back we figured that we want to have a special person that can marry us. This is because often in Registry Office ‘marrying’ person is so ”whatever” about your wedding day and also it seems .. cold. Fortunately Kaspars knows Andrejs who is a priest but also has rights to marry people. So we called him and made an appointment. He was happy to see me again, because he had only seen me once.. like.. 4 years ago. We were still together and he was glad. He offered us a preparation course before marriage. And we decided to do it.
Now we have been going to those sessions for more than a month ( he does it for free and in his own free time ) and we have learned a lot of interesting facts. Mostly we already knew basic things about communication, support, sex and so on.. but still there were a lot of new things to think about even from a different view. We are reading a book together which he recommended us, it is called ”To Couples” by Julian Melgosa, Anette D.Melgosa. This book speaks about interesting facts, differences between men and women, and statistics and even researches. Although it is quite ok (the book), the most valuable things we have learned from Andrejs himself.
The best thing about these sessions is that we can discuss these things afterwards. For me the things that I now think about more is:
-Supporting Kaspars in everything he does ( I always have respected him but now I do that even more )
-Accepting the differences in personalities
And I noticed that Kaspars is more understanding that I am a woman which means I like to talk about my feelings.
We feel more happy than ever before.
Few days back we had an argument (No yelling and chair throwing.. simply misunderstanding and hurt feelings). We resolved the problem with talking. Well.. this is nothing new ;D I think the whole planet does this usually ( besides the lunatics ). But I had a major breakthrough! –> Usually my girl friends tell me that they are disappointed in their BF’s because after a long talk.. the only thing that he has to say is something like: ” Ok.. Aha… Sorry” . But this is how men usually speak: Short but specific. The breakthrough was that I explained Kaspars that I can’t feel as if the argument is over if the only response is ” Ok”.. He now knows that he has to explain his feelings in long sentences.. even saying the same thing two or three times but in different words and only then he has assured me of how he feels and that everything is going to be alright! And he actually tried it during that conversation. He finally understood it. I have no more words for that…. IT WAS SO GOOOOOOD! LIKE A NATURAL! ;DDDD
And I felt like… 5 years together… but it was worth it! Communication: ++++++10000000!!!!!