Category Archives: Everyday Life
.. Is how long it has been since I last wrote. I mean like a lot of things have happened during this year. We were to Morocco, my brother in law got married, my sister is having another kid, I started studying and other things.
I have finally got it!
PURE POSITIVE FOCUS
TAKING AN INSPIRED ACTION
These are the 2 things that I keep in my mind throughout the day.
-Pure Positive Focus-
When something unpleasant happens we tend to keep drowning in the negative focus. It feels like it takes over and you have no control. It seem impossible to think any good thought. But what you should do is to let go and give yourself into that negative feeling. And I mean – stop trying to make it go away or tell yourself that it is so bad to feel this negative emotion and that you SHOULD feel this and that instead… This will literally throw you into a negative spiral and it does not take long to end up in hopelessness and eventually depression. So when you feel negative emotion JUST STOP! And let yourself feel the anger or sadness with mindfulness, with awareness and curiosity even. Because the emotion DOES NOT DEFINE YOU. Listen to it as If the emotion is like a messenger (which it is) and you honour it as a guest into you house. As a foreign traveller – so you want to be open and really listen to what it has to say. Validate it. If it is here so it has a value! This will literally feel like a relief. I could talk more about this topic in greater detail and also actual steps that you can take to move into more positive vibration. Just remember -you cannot jump vibrations. It means a person who feels completely hopeless cannot make himself feel pure hope and excitement just like that. You go gradually. Always. Consciously or unconsciously. Here is the emotional vibration scale:
But talking about pure positive focus – you can always shift your focus to feel better when you focus on things that you are really happy about. I have a personal example – I felt really shitty going back to work after being sick because I had lost the motivation to work (Also actually the reason why I was prone to getting the virus in the first place). So I felt horrible. I could not work effectively because I did not see the point. I was just fed up. And I tried to distract myself with music and so on.. But it just kept coming back. At one point I felt simply paralysed because it was literally a war zone inside of me and I was pulling myself emotionally to the opposite directions. Then I watched Teal’s video which actually talked about key of happiness – Pure positive focus and taking an inspired action. And then I just accepted the feeling of being fed up and disappointed. I took time to understand and accept the traveller inside of my heart. I still felt shitty about the work but I felt a big relief. Suddenly I wasn’t running against a tornado. At that moment it felt as a good time to shift focus. So I took a pen and a paper and started to write the things that I was truly grateful for in that moment (You are not trying to tell yourself to feel grateful, you actually want to feel that way). It could be anything. Usually it is the easiest to write about the small things – small, easy but they do the trick. So few of the things I wrote – ” I feel happy that I am sitting alone and listening to music and no one is bothering me with request that I would not want to respond to. I am grateful to have this moment to myself and being able to sit with my emotions because they matter to me.” ”I feel truly grateful for not having to work a job where I have to wear a uniform and pretend I am happy when I am not (I was thinking about my previous job at the casino).” And you can continue as long as you can and want. But the shift happened – I felt like I was controlling the tornado and it was carrying me into a future that I felt optimistic about, even a bit excited. I was really proud of myself. Especially because I used to live in these negative spirals all the time where I would drop so low as powerlessness/depression/guilt etc. Anyway – my focus changed – it now was a pure positive focus. I ended up going home feeling quite all-right and the next day I got good news that made me genuinely feel motivated about work again!
-Taking an inspired action-
This was a big struggle for me. I have always ignored my needs. I have lived my life just to please others – friends, family, teachers and so on.. Without even really realizing it. And sometimes I got really angry and wanted to stand for myself but at the end I just blamed myself for being so selfish. Our society exalts sacrificing. Hate it. Worst. Thing. Ever. This is reason why I conditioned myself and made myself believe that there is something WRONG WITH ME if I have my own desires and If I follow my dreams, needs and wants. I never really had anyone by my side who would be like ” Go Daiga! Chase your dreams!” It was supposed to be parents who inspire you and stand behind you no matter what. Yeah well.. Not in this time and age. They are dealing with their own problems and consequences from their parent’s fuck-ups (Everyone is). I healed my severe self-guilt with Completion Process (Read more about it here) (And on Teals website) and now I am actively learning to listen to my heart. When I suddenly get an inspiration or get excited about some idea or activity I take responsibility for it and make sure I follow it – this is taking an inspired action. It is important to differ this from feeling urged to do something – this is the opposite because it comes from a negative space and so it yields negative results. Last few years it had been very hard for me to take inspired actions. I still tend to tell myself all the reasons why the idea is not that good or maybe too ambitious or something. Basically my mind is trying to find all kinds of reasons and excuses because it thinks that I will somehow get hurt by following my desires. The funny thing is – The purpose of life IS TO FOLLOW YOUR DESIRES, WANTS AND NEEDS. And always prioritize your life by YOUR OWN values and live in accordance with them. If you don’t – you will find yourself feeling bored, discouraged, given up and you will try to seek distractions in food, porn and video games etc. because it is painful to think about the fact that you are not following your heart. And your heart will keep reminding you its desires throughout your life, but as you listen to it less and less, it becomes more and more silent almost impossible to hear. I did not say anything new, right? Yes, but the thing is that most of us don’t really get the meaning of this or choose to ignore it because its painful. People usually understands this when they are 40. Suddenly they have a newsflash that they hate their life because they have been making the wrong decisions – not for themselves but in favour of others. And it is a bit harder to become that world famous painter when you have a mortgage and a stressful career at some fancy world corporation and every aspect of your life has been made in order with the fake life that you are living. So I have chosen not to wait for my mid-life crisis. I am in my twenties and want to make it right – live a happy life by following my desires right now.
Heart: I really want to drive to the mall !!!!
Mind: Are you serious? It’s Wednesday evening and the shops close in 2 hours!
Heart: But I just want to have fun and buy some Christmas gifts for friends and family. Maybe have a cup of tea in a cafe..
Mind: There is a lot of time to do that another day. And you have a lot of teas in the kitchen. Why do you want to pay for a cup of tea there?
Heart: I don’t know…. I just thought that it could be a fun way how to spend this evening and the thought of it makes me feel very excited. You know how much I love to walk through shops and look for interesting gifts..
Mind: No! Not today! Go wash some dishes and work on your project or something! And make a tea!
Mind: Dishes and tea!
I wish everybody to have the COURAGE to say YES to the heart!
Be happy – Watch this awesome video on Teals channel.
Shame, shame, shame… 8 months without writing… but its better late than never, right?
I’ll try to sum everything up in few posts but brace yourselves cuz it may come in more than 2 😀
Since I was a little kid I’ve dreamt about having a car. I thought that it would be awesome to have a cute tiny car that I can drive with without having to get a driver’s licence. A car that I could use to go to places and it would go just as fast as a bicycle. Sometimes grandpa would let me into the garage and sit in his red Lada VAZ. And I would close my eyes and imagine that I am driving it from that garage to my parents’ apartment. I would image every bumps and every corner and how I would need to turn the wheel accordingly. I even once tried to build a little car myself (needless to mention that was not a successful attempt). And so it was a very important and sweet dream of mine to have my own car. Since February I and Kaspars were trying to find a good used car. We were going through advertisements basically everyday and there were few cars that were really good but there always was a ”but” or a little ”nah-ah”. It was May already and I we had completely lost hope to find something decent and then we decided to go to Volkswagen salon and take a look at some reasonably priced new cars or used one. I was very interested in VW Jetta because it was almost as awesome as Passat but it was not that expensive but the car would really be just a vehicle then.. no extras.. nothing. Then we saw VW Passat B8 (2016) and of course it is a completely different car. And it had nice extras.
Kaspars loved it, so did I, but.. The price… 30 000 EUR. The guy who was showing us the cars was a friend of Kaspars and he told us a lot of things and also a way how I could get a discount for 5 000 EUR. That made us think. A great bargain right? Hell yeah! We got home and got excited.. so there was no time to waste because the summer was coming and my dream was still burning hot! So then one thing happened after another and 17th of May (Norges nasjonaldag by the way) we drove home with our little cute Passat:
And so here comes the next post 🙂
This is more about me, my life today, my stands, beliefs and challenges.
I have planned to watch the blood moon together with supermoon ( http://earthsky.org/?p=51212 ) which is in the night of 27th to 28th of September. In Latvia it is 05:47 MAX. You can check time for your region and if it is possible to see it on the internet.
I turned 21 on the 2nd of August. It is a little bit strange to get older. 🙂 And I finally decided to get a tattoo. So 6th August I got this:
It is the flower of life inside of the 2nd chakra. 🙂 It cost me 160 EUR but I am very happy about it and perhaps I will make another one in soon future 🙂
So.. I am still trying to be vegan. I am fully vegetarian but I still have problems with finding the food without dairy. So to put in numbers : 100 % vegetarian and 70 % vegan. But I am feeling great and I am planning to go full vegan until my 22nd birthday which is kind a special age for me. We visited ”Fat pumpkin” and it was soooo delicious.
AAAANDDD one day I and my colleague.. we made this:
And I have one more challenge until my 22nd birthday which is to live each day asking this one simple question ” What would a person who loves themselves do?”
So basically I am learning to love myself. I hope that this will also help my marriage because last few months have been quite hard for us.
I am reading Teal Swan’s book ” Shadows before dawn” and it has been very helpful.. This is actually where I got this idea of using this question from. 🙂
I have also passed B2 exam in Norwegian, so I am quite flink now ;D This means that this month I am getting a salary raise ^^
And last but not least.. Vi er på jakt etter en ny bil 🙂 We are thinking about buying a new car, because it is so much less headache if you don’t have to repair the car that someone else has f***ed up 😀 So you will be hearing about cars in near future, hopefully 🙂
And some photos from Madona:
Ok, I have to keep fighting in this life…
June was quite interesting. We went to a wedding. It was really nice. We had some romantic moments especially in the car.
Then another day we drove to Madona with the same car (Which belongs to my father) and it had again problems with starting up. We ended up pushing the car while we were in the graveyard ;D Actually it was Kaspars and his grandparents who pushed the car, because I was driving. My first problems with a car. 😉
Last Saturday it was a teambuilding event for my departement. We had fun time and especially while climbing the thing which was called ”Vells” (translates to Devil). When I got up approximately 2 meters.. my heart started to race and I was in doubt and wasn’t sure if I could do climb any further. I just took some deep breaths and ended up climbing to the top. My colleague helped me a lot by shouting ”Daiga, you can do it!”.
And last but not least... Another attempt of mine to go vegan. Since June 16th I haven’t eaten any meat and I don’t know why but it has been very easy. So I have a feeling that I won’t bounce back to eating it again. But we’ll see of course. And there are other animal products. I haven’t bought milk in few months now although it was my favourite drink together with dinner. The three products that I find most difficult to cut out are sour cream, cheese and eggs. For me meat is the one product that I don’t want to go back because it makes me feel sad to eat a dead animal. The rest of animal products I just want to minimize as much as possible because they don’t have so many benefits. As I also don’t like these labels ”vegan” or ”vegetarian” or ”meat eater” I just call myself a person that avoids eating animal products.
Why am I doing this? I have to be honest here: It wasn’t the fact that someone is dying that struck me the most or made me think about what I am eating. Because I know that animals also have a soul and they still live on and we can see other animals eating each other in nature. So for me firstly it was Teal Swan who talked about so called ”spiritual diet”. Because I was and still am very interested in achieving OBE on regular basis and I wanted to make my body more alkaline so that it is more likely to happen. And I just understood how healthy it is to cut out animal products and how it could change my health for good. Later on it was Freelee the Banana girl who can be quite harsh sometimes but I guess that that is what I like about her. She is direct and honest. I felt inspired looking at her body and knowing that she is doing all the right things regarding the diet and seeing her blending some fruits and repeating ” you can eat as much as you can! No calories restriction!” just made sense to me because I did not want to do that. She made me buy a blender, finally. Thank god! Now I can have my smoothies! So now when I think about meat and other animal products I also have this good feeling that no one has to get hurt because of me and this is a big bonus. So I see this as a win – win situation. I get my beauty, strength and health and animals get to live on. And I am not there yet to make other people think about going vegan as Freelee is doing this. I am happy that someone is doing this ;D But when it comes to me I just want to make myself feel good and when another person is ready to listen about this lifestyle I will be more that glad to share ideas. P.s. you can find both Teal Swan and Freelee on youtube. Oh and one more thing – after not eating meat and minimal amount of animal products just for 5 days I felt my skin go soooo soft. I didn’t know that my skin can be so soft! I am amazed! My acne is getting better and my intestines are feeling a lot better.
I have been trying go vegan for a long time and I also had a lot of doubts about protein which we can get from meat and dairy.. and it turn out that there are a lot of plants that can give you full protein. One of my favourite ones are buckwheat and amaranth. 🙂
And now photos and videos!:
My breakfast today 🙂
Yesterday: +31 C
My colleague tries to make me smile.
Teambuilding dinner – burgers! For me – peasburger ;D
I MADE IT TO THE TOP!
To make my workplace look more nice 🙂
Kaspars took a photo because he thought I look sexy
Daiga happy on the beach
Fint, ikke sant?
The next day after our friend’s wedding
Typical Latvia’s view
Hailey is pooping ;DDD
Happy carrot was very very sad but now she is trying to get back on her feet!
My mom showed me these! A little while longer and…. YUM!
Tomato, avocado, salad and other greens 🙂 This was my yesterdays dinner 🙂
Salad and greens were from our garden. I’m waiting when we’ll have our own tomatoes as well >:)
This is a typical view in Latvia. I took this photo this morning 🙂
I stayed at parents house yesterday and this morning it was such a nice and fresh weather (mmmm)… I wish I could have something like that in Riga.
A few of many flowers in mom’s garden 🙂 And those white leaves come from apple tree 🙂 Romantic, right?
I must confess… for more than a month now.. I’ve been trying to befriend with crows. They are amazingly smart and they can recognize a person by face. But the most interesting part is that they can remember you if you do something bad to them or because you do something good to them. My plan is to feed them – so I want to get on their good side ;D There are many species for crows and these are those who I meet everyday on my way to work:
And here are two videos from today’s fun with my husband in Mežaparks:
Later we went to eat some not so healthy food and we ordered a takeaway and we ate it at Kaspar’s office. I had never been to his office before. It was nice. And we also played ping pong a bit.. When I was starting to get good at it… I realized that I was tired ;D So then we went home. 🙂
And here I wanted to show you how Haley ravaged the blanket today… she also fell down from the bed.. Take a look! 🙂